There's something I've wanted to say ever since I started writing
this column a couple of years ago. Frankly, I wasn't sure exactly how to
phrase it without upsetting some people but, what the heck, I might as
well say it.
What the Web needs is more soft-core eroticism and less hard-core
Some of you may be thinking: How dare a "family technology"
columnist encourage the spread of sexually stimulating material that
will undoubtedly be looked at by teenagers and even pre-teens? Yes, it's
true, such material would be viewed by young people.
If your goal is to completely shield our youth from sexuality, my
proposal has absolutely no merit. But if that's your belief, you had
better ban them completely from the Internet and, while you're at it,
keep them away from TV, the movies, magazines, the beach and even
school. We're raising a generation of kids in a highly sexually charged
When I was a kid, topless photos in Playboy were considered pretty
hard core. We didn't have Victoria's Secret back then but, if we did,
you can bet that their advertisements would have been banned from the
mainstream publications that are only too happy to print their ads
Curiosity about sex is natural and interest in looking at sexual
material didn't start with the Internet. I'm quite sure that Johannes
Guttenberg, who invented the printing press to print Bibles, had no idea
it would be used for the likes of Hustler magazine. Pictures of naked
bodies go back to antiquity. Visit a European art museum or even a
cathedral and you'll see plenty of images that must have been shocking
at the time. To some they are still shocking.
I admit I'm not an expert when it comes to eroticism, but I do know
that what is widely available today is far more explicit than what kids
could get their hands on when I was a teenager. I don't know whether
pictures like the 1953 Playboy topless photos of Marilyn Monroe would
even get a second look from today's kids, but I do know one thing, what
is widely available on the Net today goes way beyond what I -- as a very
liberal minded adult -- consider acceptable for kids to look at.
As I've pointed out in earlier columns, it's actually easier to find
hard core porn than it is to find the softer stuff so, anyone looking
for any type of sexual material, is bound to wind up looking at material
that could be problematic. And I'm not just talking about degrees of
nudity or sexuality. I'm referring to sites that promote activities
that, if carried out, would be unhealthy, illegal, dangerous and
The ease to which kids can land on such sites is infuriating, but
just because we can point to such extreme sites doesn't mean that we
should go out of our way to block them from everything that could be
considered sexually stimulating.
I don't know what the answer is. The federal government is not about
to fund an erotic Internet zone for teenagers and I'm not suggesting
that it should. But I also believe it's counter productive to deny young
people the opportunity to explore their sexuality on the Internet and
I'm not sure that sites that are tasteful, yet provocative should
necessarily be off limits to teens who are bound and determined to look
at whatever material they can get their hands on.
Trouble is, such sites are very hard to find and anyone looking for
them is likely to be sidetracked by the very type of material we ought
be worried about.
It boils down to this: Assuming you have little or no choice as to
whether your kids are going to look at sexual material, what type of
material would you rather they look at? I know the answer for my kids. I
would feel OK about them looking at tasteful nudity and not OK about
them looking at sites that are demeaning or violent.
Larry Magid is a technology journalist and commentator based in Palo Alto. After seeing our club's web site
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